Tuesday, September 1, 2009


I received this afternoon a very ugly comment from an "Anonymous" blogger in response to the post about my daughter. Someone who said such vile things to me behind the mask of anonymity while publicly scolding me.

It was chock full of hateful "Shame on you's"...in regards to my daughter and my not being able to buy her a birthday present.

I was also mocked in this hate comment; "Waaa waaa waaaa--oh, somebody please send poor little Jo some money!!!"

I replied but then decided it best to delete their hate--and my subsequent response.

How someone could have so much disdain for someone is beyond me.

I've found it necessary to remove myself from others' blogs as a follower for not liking their content but did so without sending them hate mail. I've also been guilty of commenting on others' blogs--within my own--but again have done so without mentioning names.

To send them hate mail would be cruel and undignified.

Not that I'm always the 'Poster Child' for dignity as this 'Anonymous' blogger pointed out.

THIS, that was posted to me, was quite intentional--and hurtful. Which I suppose was their point.

Well done.

So, let me clear a few things up to avoid any further misunderstandings:

I have been accused of being 'whiny'.

Gee, you think?

Guilty as charged. The title of my blog is "Diary of A Sad Housewife".

I'm sorry that you, dear 'Anonymous', also think that I have been 'wasteful' with money and then have the audacity to whine about it.

You're certainly entitled to feel that way.

I'm also sorry that you think I am a horrible mother to my daughter and that I should be 'ashamed of myself'.

Who says I'm not ashamed?

She would no doubt agree with you. So, no argument from me on that.


I was also accused of asking fellow bloggers for money in a backhanded way via of my 'whining' about money.

If I came across that way--I am mortified.

For this, I will--and do--apologize.

Never ever was that my intention. I'm actually just the kind of cheeky broad that might come straight out and ask for help, possibly even posting a 'Paypal' link on my blog.

However, I didn't--nor would I.

Our circumstances are such that perhaps I simply don't have the words/intelligence to put things in any other way other than what they are.

It is what it is.

My heartfelt apologies if I came across differently.

I was also told that I should disconnect cable, Internet and such.

FYI: we have a son who just entered college--Internet is vital to his assignments. Now, with that said, do I want to give up the Internet and my blogging? Of course not.

Guilty again.

And we recently downgraded our cable package.

Let me reiterate that we don't go out to eat, we don't travel, etc. THIS is our entertainment.

However, if it gets to the point where we absolutely cannot hang onto it--we will certainly make that decision to disconnect--no qualms about it.

Again, guilty as charged.

There were many more accusations and ugly things said. However, I refuse to get into a public tit-for-tat with this person...so, in conclusion dear 'Anonymous', perhaps it's best you take a cue from me and delete yourself from my followers list--if my content makes you that unhappy--I think it's best for you, me and all involved.

Peace, love and happiness,
"Diary Of A GUILTY Housewife"


  1. Bravo my ballsy (sp?) friend! I think it is awesome how you havve the guts to stand up for yourself and what is right. Keep up the brash, bold blog you are known for...we, your friends wouldnt have it any other way!

    Peace my friend:)

  2. Jo, I can't believe that someone would attack you under a veil of anonymity. That just makes me so mad. I can't believe that person. Ignore them my friend. You keep on with your writing. Pardon my frankness, but . . . Eff `em.

  3. I have had hateful people on my blogs also - I just believe that they are so miserable in their own existence that it makes them feel better to hurt others. Sorry you were hurt.

  4. I never understood the nasty comment thing. If you don't like a blog, don't read it. simple.

    RE: your post about your daughter. It's funny, as soon as I made it a few lines in I immediately though "Asperger's!" And wasn't surprised to hear that is the diagnosis. I've known a few people with it and it is very challenging for parents. Thanks for your comments on my blog, you sure have had a rough time, yet under it all I know you fiercely love your children despite it all. Because that's what being a mother is all about right?

    hang in there! -kate

  5. ugh.. the way mr. "anonymous" commented shows that he's actually a very horrendous kinda person, he needs more rebuke, but he's a little scared that if his anonymity will be unveiled then u will know who is that person.. i guess, its his mediocrity that made him write such words... i know its hard for you but if you can try to forget such a comment !
    lets move on JO, u have more different things to ponder upon..

    i hope such things never let your spirits down.
    all the best

  6. Hi Jo- It makes me wonder how sad/destructive the anonymous commenter/blogger's real life is. No one has to read a blog if they don't want to. Being rude on a blog, under cover of anonymity, is simply cowardly. Don't mind the small stuff or the small minded bloggers, you actually have important issues to focus on.

  7. Hi Jo; I don't understand why people who want to be mean need to do it to somebody who's obviously suffering already. Cowardly creeps. If you don't like what you read on the blog, don't read it. Simple.

  8. PS Yep, I'm thrilled you liked the froggie. He's a happy kind of guy.

  9. I'm sorry that someone felt the need to lash out to you in that way. I don't think people realize how much words can hurt... or maybe they do. Keep your spirits up. For every mean person, there's so many more who think you are great!

  10. Hi Jo,
    I'm so sorry of that unbelievable behavior.
    I understand that comment made you to say "he/she drives me crazy".
    I've said the same to myself, but now i know better.
    I don't allow myself to fall into the trap of letting others rob me of my most precious commodity.-my peace of mind.
    I own of my emotions. i don't allow myself to become angry or upset with another person.

    I'm not giving away my serenity.
    And once it's gone, it's very difficult to get back.
    I'd be so happy if this might help a little bit.

    if you get a chance, you'll find on my today's post something you may like.
    Kisses to your precious daughter.
    Warm regards
    P.S. My opinion: You're great!

  11. You go girl!! Keep on blogging and we will keep on reading.

  12. Hi! Thanks so much for stopping by my blog on my Sits Day last week:-) We have a LOT in common and I have added you to my blogroll.

    Reading this post, I am AMAZED at how some people act. The other commenter who said "ballsy" really nailed it. I am looking forward to exploring your blog more but from what I've read so far, you seem like a very "heart-on-sleeve," what you see is what you get type of person...the OPPOSITE of what Anonymous accused you of being. (And dontcha love anonymous comments? What's with that?)

    Anyway....keep staying true to yourself & I look forward to reading:-)